They say that a stumble is not a fall, which is absolutely true. But, there is a time in all of our lives when we all fall, hard; and it hurts pretty bad. When my dad was sick, and cancer slowly started taking over his body, It got harder and harder to pick myself back up. Just seeing my father, my hero, my strength, made me fall to my knees. When he died, there were days when I didn't want to get back up. There were days I stayed down. But, I knew I couldn't do that forever. So, I found ways to pick myself back up... slowly. Here are 5 ways that I picked myself back up... and I hope one, or all, of these work for you too.
Find a positive outlet. It could be art, gardening, joining a club or group, finding a new hobby, reading, writing, doing home reno projects, or even starting your own blog! Start slowly, and if one outlet doesn’t help, try something else. Avoid the temptation to become dependent on something outside of yourself to cope with your negative thoughts and feelings. Your worth is internal, not external. We can easily become dependent on people, food, alcohol, attention, sex, and drugs (legal and illegal).
Ensure that you surround yourself with people that will speak life into you. This includes family, friends, professionals, media and what you read. Make sure that you avoid people that live in fear and do not provide you encouragement and hope. Steer clear of those that try to take your energy, not give it to you. You don’t have to talk about how you’re feeling, but sometimes just the act of smiling or laughing stimulates the brain to release those hormones, like dopamine, that give us the very real feeling of happiness.
Talk to someone that has been there. It’s no one’s fault if he or she can’t “relate” to what you’re going through; and people really do have the best of intentions. But, sometimes, you just need to confide in someone who can empathize because they have gone through a lot of struggle as well. You don’t want a solution, because you know in the back of your mind that snapping your fingers and instantly being happy feels impossible. What you want is to feel, and know, is that you’re not alone.
Exercise to clear your mind. Exercise releases endorphins and they are responsible for that amazing feeling you get after you finish a workout. Endorphins, chemically, have the same effects on our bodies as morphine. It doesn’t make the pain go away, but it dulls it, giving you a chance to get back on your feet.
Take care of yourself more than normal. Find some quiet time, eat nutritious foods, exercise, do an activity that relaxes you. This is not selfish, it’s doing what you need to do to survive, to be the best you for those you love. If you don’t take care of yourself, you can’t take care of anyone else.
All the details of your life are not so pretty...make the whole beautiful...♥